cameradog
Well-known member
Let me let you in on a reality that I don't think you've learned yet, and about which many, many people (including photogs) are in denial:It just baffled me that ALL of this was overlooked for so long.
Generally speaking, managers care less about how good you are and more about how friendly you are.
I'm not suggesting that you're really unfriendly. What I'm saying is that the smiling moron who can't figure out the filter wheel but always seems earnest and happy will usually be favored over the skilled photog who doesn't smile. When the incompetent keeps smiling and being friendly, the manager wants to give him the benefit of the doubt... and does. When the skilled person gets irritated with something and lets it show, the manager will discount the value of the skills and won't have sympathy for the anger. The guy who can't get a shot in focus but never complains about being sh*t on is seen as a "team player." The one who resists taking sh*t, even mentally, is seen as "difficult."
I sympathize with you, because I'm generally not a suckup and tend to say what's on my mind. People don't like that. You see it in this thread. You expected people to share your irritation, but instead they're seeing you as the problem. I'm guessing your managers see you as too ambitious and are content to keep you down, while they see the other happy-go-lucky guy as deserving a little extra help.
What you will need to do is keep your mouth shut and your head down, finish school, get a tape together and get a job offer elsewhere. But don't think it will be better at your next job. You'll always find favoritism, whether it has to do with money, or stories, or the shifts you're given. Your only real hope to break out of that is to find one of the few managers who values skill over moronic smiling, or to become the boss yourself and hire for skill.
It never really goes away, but it does get easier after you learn to accept reality. And this isn't just with photogs. This is everywhere. I'm out of the television business now, and I see it among financial professionals. The ones who move ahead are the ones who have the best people skills.