Relationships in the workplace

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I just started a relationship with a reporter at the station that I work for. We work different shifts witch is good in some ways and bad in another. We don't want to tell anybody about our relationship yet and frankly its none of their business. I'm sure they will find out eventually. My ? to you is have you gone through this before, and if so has management found out about the relationship have they not let you work together anymore. How have you delt with trying to keep the relationship seceret or did you just come out and say it. I hope this makes sense?

[Icarus112277]

I don't **** where I eat, but good luck.

[Lensmith]

I've seen it work out and I've seen it become a problem.

Forget about trying to keep it a secret. That's impossible.

It's a difficult balance to strike and still keep your job...and sanity.

I lived with a long term girlfriend for several years. Both of us working at the same station. Actually several stations. It wasn't easy.

I currently work with my wife. She's on air for a large Spanish language network. We also work apart...which is a nice break for both of us. It's hard to change hats while at work. It's hard to accept criticism from someone you care about and not have it affect your home life.

Like I said, it can be done...but it's far from easy.

Good luck.

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Thanks Lensmith for the post. Its going to be hard but we'll work it out.

[eyeshoot]

I dated a reporter and had the same shift as her. hell, we lived together. some folks at the station made some comments, but other than that it went great. our ND would send us to cover out of state stories, we kicked a$$ together.plus we never brought our personal life into work. which helped alot, good luck.

[Lost in Alaska]

Originally posted by eyeshoot:
we never brought our personal life into work. which helped alot.This is the most important part of it all. Keep your personal life together at home, stay professional at work.

[geezer]

I met my wife at work. We hit our 25th anniversary next year so I suppose it's working out OK so far.

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Congrats geezer hopefully we can all be that lucky.

[soonershooter]

Originally posted by eyeshoot:
I dated a reporter and had the same shift as her. hell, we lived together. some folks at the station made some comments, but other than that it went great. our ND would send us to cover out of state stories, we kicked a$$ together.plus we never brought our personal life into work. which helped alot, good luck. So, how did it end? or did it?

[tdelarm]

This is not uncommon and has or is taking place on and at all levels within the employed at places I've worked in Los Angeles.

I know of a Chief Photographer who is married to the News Director in a smaller market…big deal.

I think its up to you and your SO as to how you handle it and how mature you are about it.

I can tell you it happens in the 2nd market and works.

[<DM>]

I met my wife at a small station. We've been married 11 years as of March 26th.

Of course, she was the smart one and is no longer a reporter, but hey! Somebody had to have some common sense in the relationship.

I've seen many a relationship fall apart in the workplace, too. It's just whether or not you're compatible. A cliche, but a true cliche.

[videohead]

don't keep it a big secret or you'll constantly be the center of the gossip. If you're a female reporter keep it a big secret for those desired effects that the relationship was formed around to begin with.

[eyeshoot]

Originally posted by soonershooter:
quote: Originally posted by eyeshoot:
I dated a reporter and had the same shift as her. hell, we lived together. some folks at the station made some comments, but other than that it went great. our ND would send us to cover out of state stories, we kicked a$$ together.plus we never brought our personal life into work. which helped alot, good luck. So, how did it end? or did it?

[eyeshoot]

Originally posted by eyeshoot:
quote: Originally posted by soonershooter:
quote: Originally posted by eyeshoot:
I dated a reporter and had the same shift as her. hell, we lived together. some folks at the station made some comments, but other than that it went great. our ND would send us to cover out of state stories, we kicked a$$ together.plus we never brought our personal life into work. which helped alot, good luck. it end? or did So, how did it? It went well for 5 years, i found a job out of state. she tried to get a job in the same town but things where going well for her so, things just went as far as they could. we still keep in touch. i know now that she was the one, i screwed up.

[<looker>]

Hey man don't sweat it I met my soon to be wife at work. She is a director and I'm a photographer We will be married April 17th. The station has been totally cool about it. However if this is going somewhere, I don't think it's fair to not tell your co-workers. Mis guidance can be very dangerous. Good luck

[<elvez>]

met my wife at work, going on 13 years.
she was a producer. the funny part was management didnt see it as a problem till i went across town. I never gave away a scoop.

[whatsatripod]

I've seen it both ways. those that tell and those that don't but everybody knows about it. If you are truely happy with eachother then let people know. Your coworkers are less likely to gossip about you and her all day long. Especially those producers who all they do is sit on there AR$es and flashnote each other about everything they shouldn't care about, rather than things they should be accomplishing.

[G_Roll]

I married a reporter that I worked with. I am a living testiment that it does work. We get along great! Since we're both in the biz...we understand what each other goes through. And don't worry what other people at your station think. If you're happy...that is all that matters.

[Baltimore Shooter]

A photog and reporter I know from a Vegas station met and married and are now living happily in Baltimore. Looks like it's been working out. Maybe she (the reporter) married him because he's smart. He left TV to study law and make some real money, so he must be smarter than the average photog.
Warren

[<SENOR JUMPCUT>]

"DON'T GET YOUR HONEY WHERE YOU MAKE YOUR MONEY."

[IShootU]

I'm in one of these relationships right now, I am in a bureau and she is at the main station. When we first started we thought we should keep it quiet but once word got out it was just easier to admit it. Everyone had fun with it when they thought it was a scandal but when I was confronted I just seriously told them that yeah we are dating and after that everyone dropped it because we took the fun out of it. DON'T brag to anyone you work with no matter how hot she is. You can brag about her to your non-broadcasting friends but the quickest way to lose her is to brag about her at work only to have it come back to her and make her sound like a slut. She will understand if you brag to your other friends (if you have any bargaining skill at all) but not to your co-workers. I'm in a situation where we are just one of a whole host of couples at our station so weather you know it or not, it is probably going on where you work so I wouldn't be worried about management.....have fun while it lasts and take lots of pictures...good luck guy!

[Todio]

At a station I worked at an anchor and a reporter were having a relationship right under everyone's nose for over a year. Absolutely nobody knew. These two were like oil and water personality-wise and were the LAST two you would ever think would hook up.

They announced they were getting married the way you announce anything at a TV station... they told the makeup lady (who spread it around in about 30 seconds). To say we were flabbergasted is an understatement!

Why the big announcement after so much successful secrecy? We discovered that about 9 months later...

well... actually about 3 or 4 months later when she was suddenly pulled off air and started to wear loose sweaters. :D

They're happily married now and their kid is a sweetie.

[<the dude>]

It can work. I met my wife at the station we worked at. Like others have said before, dont bring your personal life to work.

Also, if the station sends the two of you on a out of town trip, they save money because they only have to pay for one hotel room.

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Thanks for all the response. Everything is going great with us was just wondering about everybody else. Some great stories out their.